A successful friend sent me a link to a webinar on wealth
and abundance and because I respect her judgment I participated.
I went in a skeptic yet found some sound and useful ideas that I will share with you.
1. We each have
a "set point" about money that determines how much our subconscious
decides we ought to have and we unconsciously structure our money activity to
accommodate that set point.
a)
Our set point, a vibration level that we use to calibrate how much wealth we
should have is dictated by the sum of
our hidden ideas, absorbed from
mom and dad and any other influences in our childhood before we could
differentiate between a sound idea and a bad one. We loved mom and dad and depended on them for our safety and
wanted to imitate them.
2. It is these subconscious ideas and attitudes that define
how we regard money, how easily we get it and how we use it.
a)
If mom thought you had to work hard to earn money then you probably work hard
to earn money.
b)
If dad mismanaged money or lost it in the stock market, then you probably find
a way to waste money or use it in ways that do not make it grow.
c)
If dad or mom had something against wealthy people - they were superficial or obnoxious
or just plain bad then you are conflicted about wealth because wealthy people
are bad.
d)
If your parents thought that money was "the root of all evil" then it
stands to reason you would not want a whole bunch of it.
Most of us don't know we have a subconscious roadmap for
wealth. We feel our money journey
is just a product of bad luck, lack of opportunity, ignorance, poor education or
the economy.
I know that I used to mirror my father's attitude about
money. Dad liked to hoard money -
put it away somewhere and think about it.
It made him feel secure to have it but he didn't want to USE IT. To him, money was something physical to
stash somewhere. He didn't see
it as a tool to enhance his life and circumstances. He lived nicely but not well. He swept his own shop instead
of hiring someone to sweep it for him.
He stayed close to home and never learned to drive. He traveled by bus. (Guess who else likes to travel by bus
and mows her own lawn? Moi.)
One of my father's younger brothers, my uncle Charlie, had
the opposite wealth profile. He
was a bon vivant who, at one time,
employed a butler. I remember that
butler because I lived with Charlie at the time. Mr. Vitezy looked exactly like Albert Einstein. His wife was the housekeeper and they
lived in an apartment over the garage at Charlie's Bethesda, Md. house. To Charlie, money was energy and
freedom. Both brothers were
equally wealthy. The other
brothers in the family were divided between spenders and hoarders but no one
came close to my father's extremes
Although we think it is hard to change our wealth set point,
it probably isn't. It is
hard to discover what the hidden ideas are but once they are out in the open
the opportunity to topple them is possible. If you sit quietly and ask yourself what money means to you,
you'll find some interesting answers.
Maybe you feel just right about your wealth status. I'm almost satisfied with my wealth
level but upon examination, I realize my dominant habits of spending, using and
making money are directly attributable to my parents. Just knowing that has resulted in some
really big changes in my money habits recently.
Start out by asking yourself some very simple questions.
How do I feel about money?
How did my father or mother feel?
Do I see money as a tool to be used or as a physical item to
be put away and accumulated?
Do I see money as an enemy or a source of freedom?
Do I see wealth as something out of reach?
